Hi,
I recently matched with someone on a sexual/kinky dating site whose profile said they were interested in matching with good humans and that they valued openness.
We started chatting and the conversation quickly delved into sexting (just messages)
My concern lies with the the person’s profile that they wanted to connect with “good humans” and they liked “openness” – I wouldn’t consider myself particularly good (I suffer very much from Harm OCD and moral scrupulosity).
I’m wondering if I have violated boundaries/consent here (i.e. that I deceived tis person and therefore informed consent was not present), in relation to the “good people” statement in the person’s profile. When the sexting was happening, this did cross my mind, but I was able to rationalise it and ignored my thoughts, and that I was already in the midst of it so might as well keep going – I’m thinking that this mindset was wrong in retrospect, but I’m unsure if I was ignoring the thoughts to combat OCD or if I was just ignoring the thoughts for my own selfish needs
I did have a similar issue with sexting earlier this year but have been able to get over that
Would be great to get people’s two cents here
