Hi there… I’ve found that, if I try to please everyone, I actually end up pleasing no one, especially myself. It seems selfish, but I now tend to go about pleasing myself, in respect of others around me. I got to the point of telling myself that, if anyone takes offence to me, I imagine I’ve given them the lawn mower as well! Get it? Fence? Lawnmower? A ruddy great big tractor one like they use in parks… It is such a ridiculous thought, that I actually cheer up, for myself, allowing others to go around me… Metaphorically thinking and forcing them to go around me. I give myself the same rights as I give everyone else. They soon get used to it. If they think I’m wrong, so be it… It is only their opinion after all… It is a very noble thing to do, to try and keep everyone happy, but alas, it is basically impossible, and, as people don’t always seek to please us… That is our job… Please ourselves, with respect to everyone else. If we don’t look after our own needs, we will not be able to look after anyone else’s need anyway… When I was very ill, I tried the metaphor ‘Joy’, meaning ‘Jesus first, others second, myself last…’, But I never had time for myself… I’d spend too much of my time looking after everyone else’s needs, and I burned out… If we take time for ourselves, only then, can we be able to help others alongside us, cos they will take everything you’ve got, and still expect more… Looking after no.1 is very important. If those around us disapprove, that’s their problem… Let them moan… It’ll only make them feel worse in themselves anyway, but we metaphorically stay afloat. We survive…
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