ROCD/Cheating

[leigh123Participant]

Hi hoping for some advice or anyone that can relate. Most my OCD thoughts are false memories relating to cheating but recently it has changed to like when I have actually slept with people in the past I’m worried they may have overlapped in to my current relationship. I get confused with dates and try to figure out the exact date and times that I did these things. There’s this one occasion that is causing me so much stress and anxiety, I remember sleeping with this boy but I was positive it was before I met my boyfriend but now I have convinced myself I have no idea when it happened so it could’ve overlapped in to my relationship and I would have then cheated. I asked my sister about it as I spoke to her the day I met this boy and she said it was definitely before I met my boyfriend but it isn’t enough to stop the thought. I feel like I need to message the guy and ask him but I have no way of contacting him and to be honest I’d rather never speak to him he was huge mistake but I can’t live with this anxiety it’s eating at me so bad:(

[johna2Participant]

Contacting that boy sounds like a compulsion. I wouldn’t do it if I were you. If in doubt, probably do nothing.

Any checking tends to make ocd worse.

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