Dreading going back to work and leaving my baby at childcare

[Lavender31Participant]

I am going back to work in 2 months and I’m dreading leaving my 10 month old, by then i would have spent a year with her and I just know I won’t want to leave her. My anxiety and ocd about it are affecting what’s left of my maternity leave and I’m getting quite panicky about it.

The only positive I can think of childcare is the interaction for her.

I have to go back to work 3 days a week as its company policy, I really wanted just two days but that’s not possible.

I dont have anyone around me with my issues who has gone through this.

I’m just getting negative about it and can’t seem to really think rationally.

I just think “I’m not doing it”

Starting to cry about it tonight as I just don’t want to deal with this.

If any one has any experience, help or advice would really appreciate it 🙂

[ArchiveParticipant]

Hi, Have you heard the term ‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’?  You may find that, time at work will give you a break, and when you get back home at the end of your shift, You’ll be able to love her even more… As a grandparent, I absolutely adore my kids, I see them regularly, and it is great fun, but I couldn’t do it all the time… One day, your little one will start school, and have lot’s more people in her life… And she’ll love you more, and one day understand that you go out during the day too, to provide her with wonderful things to make her life happy.  Welcome.

Wannabe

[Forum Moderators]

Hello:

Forum moderators here; we’re very sorry you’re having such a difficult time coping with your anxiety and your OCD, while being a mum – and we want you to know how to access more help and support.

Here are some resources for mothers with OCD that we hope you’ll find useful:

Maternal OCD: this very helpful organisation helps mothers with OCD. Their website has lots of useful resources, especially in the “Help for Mums” section.

Maternal OCD explains how you can access help and support: if you are suffering from OCD as a mother, your first step towards getting help is to see your GP – this will help with accessing the right support and treatment for you. You can read more on this page on their website

OCD Action also has information about more support for OCD; some is for pregnant women and mothers. Visit our website to:

•  Read about all of our support: OCD Action Support
• Watch this video: “2019 NATIONAL CONFERENCE: MATERNAL OCD“

You can also contact the OCD Action Help and Information Line to talk to or email someone who understands OCD. This confidential service offers help, information and support for people with OCD – they’ve helped mothers like you. Contact the Helpline by:

• email: support@ocdaction.org.uk
• phone:  0300 636 5478

OCD Action Skype/Phone/Zoom support groups:. joining a group can be very helpful, as you can talk to people who understand in a safe space. To find out more, on our Skype/Phone/Zoom Support Groups page, click on “I AM AN ADULT WITH OCD“

You can read about and search for local independent OCD support groups in the UK here (OCD Action is currently reviewing the information we hold for these groups. Please check this page soon to find a group in your area): Local Independent Support Groups

And just please know that you’re never alone – OCD Action is here to support you.

Forum Moderators

[Forum Moderators]

Hello:

We’d also like you to know about this additional support OCD Action offers for you.

OCD Action Support Groups

Online Support Groups:

• Provide a safe and welcoming environment
• Allow you to connect with others and offer mutual support without judgement
• Are all peer led, assisted by a team of trained volunteers.

Who can join?

Anyone based in the UK and living with and/or affected by OCD or a related condition including:

• People who have these conditions, whether diagnosed or not
• Their parents, caregivers, partners and loved ones
• Students aged up to 25 in college / university/ other educational institutions
• Young people aged 16 – 17
• Young people aged 18 – 25

Types of groups

OCD Action offers specialised groups including:

• Pure O – General\Pure O – Intrusive Harm Thoughts
• Pure O – Scrupulosity & Morality
• Checking OCD
• Contamination OCD
• Perinatal OCD
• LGBTQ+ OCD
• Men’s OCD
• OCD for People of Colour
• BDD
• OCD & Autism
• OCD & Hoarding

What important details do I need to know?

• You can sign-up to a maximum of two groups initially. After attending at least once, you’re welcome to sign-up to another group
• Participation is easily accessible via Zoom, or
• If you don’t have internet access, we have a few phone support group places
• There is no charge to join
• Because of the high demand, please only sign up if you intend to use your place(s)
• To retain membership, you must attend a session at least once every three months

What are Navigating Services sessions?

As a Support Group member, you’ll be automatically be invited to monthly Navigating Services Sessions. Attendance is optional, and you’re free to opt out of the session mailing list at any time.

Led by our Helpline team, these sessions include:

• Information and support on accessing recommended treatments through the NHS and/or privately
• Opportunities to share lived experience of accessing support (for attendees or others)
• Answers to questions/concerns regarding recommended treatments and/or service provision

Want to know more about Support Groups?

For more information before you sign up:

• Email sign-up@ebtsupportgroups.co.uk
• Call 020 7253 5272
• See our website: https://ocdaction.org.uk/online-support-groups/

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