Reply To: Can anyone relate to avoidance with a partner

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<p style=”text-align: right;”>Hey, thanks for replying back. Possibly, he does train in martial arts and I know he has got a temper. We’re 9 weeks break up now and 5 weeks no contact. He dropped my things off finally without seeing me and in a safe place of mine because I got his parents involved. He’s a lot going on. I haven’t initiated contact in 5 weeks now. I can’t diagnosis him but he most Definitely looks like he has some fearful avoident issues. I’ve left him too it and I didn’t even respond when he dropped my things off. The last text I sent him was about his things in which I offered him to come and look for them, contact my mother direct as he thought things were there too and to reimburse him, told him he could look round mine whenever he need to collect them with out me there to which he then said he couldn’t be bothered. So I still have his things and his sons.  But yeah I never replied to his last message or to when he dropped them off. I’ve given up. It’s so hard everyone sits there and says it’s not your fault and you deserve better and we’re like yes I know. But for me I think it’s just the not knowing if he will be in contact or not. How are you finding it?</p>