I don’t have advice for the OP, but it resonates with me as a spouse of someone with OCD who seeks constant reassurance and thinks it’s cruel if I don’t participate. I’m wondering what are some of the books that helped? I feel like he doesn’t believe/understand that I’m doing this to help, not hurt him. If there’s a list of resources I could share with him and read myself, I’d appreciate it. He’s not open to professional treatment of any sort right now so this is all I’ve got. Thank you.