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    Anon35
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      Hello,

      I’ve been off 3 months with depression & my company has referred me to Occupational Health.  I think this is a good thing, as I haven’t had anyone to speak too for three months, only online courses my GP has referred me too.  I feel it will give me a platform to discuss openly my worries within my work, again something I have never had a chance to do.  There have been several instances where people within my team have complained about others, I had to also have a sit down with someone else because they were just acting like my manager.  I’d had enough and wanted to handle it.  This eased off, however certainly isn’t helping my condition as I am not looking forward to returning to work with such people.  It’s only adding to my current Health.

      I also had to give evidence against someone who was complained for work place bullying & was asked about the general feeling of our work atmosphere.  So there’s two incidents that surely back up my claims that it’s making me uneasy and maybe contributing to my Mental Health?

      I’m worried they will sack me & say ” Nope, this guy doesn’t have depression, punt him ” or ” Nah, it’s not a real illness, punt him, ease him out ” or ” I’m his manager & will overrule any Occupational Health assessments?

      In our team, we have two people off, one has been off for 6 months, still employed & it’s because of COPD ( The person told me this was why he was off) & the other has cancer and has been off for nearly a year ( Has been given all clear ) so I keep saying to myself, if they haven’t dismissed them, it would be completely unfair dismissal if I was dismissed.

      I know what would make me happier at work, working with a different team, it’s that simple.  Well not a different team, but a few certain individuals.  This is something I’ve never had the courage to speak to my manager about, so maybe Occupational Health will listen to me?  My manager would probably say ” No, we can’t do it, sack him, punt him, my team is the best team ” but the evidence is there that it’s just not.

      Failing that, the only other positive outcome I can see is that I am counselled in how to manage with difficult people at work & how I can cope better with such personalities, because I have had to work with that one or two people for years & have always found it hard not to stand up to myself.  I react differently to the way others would react & I know sometimes maybe I need to learn to accept others the way they are, so I’m hoping I don’t get punted or judged, or looked down and can maybe speak to someone regularly at work to help me handle things easier.

      I have been complimented for my work often & have been told I am being missed, so I try and take pride from that.

      It’s true I got so angry with one guy, who is the rudest man ever, I had to go and speak to a friend at work that I was angry & even considered contacting our ‘ Talking Helps’ team for advice on difficult employees.  I ended up going off sick a few weeks later.

      Actually the reason I went off was because of my nose, I had polyps which I think have healed, and I couldn’t cope with it, had what I think was my first full panic attack in years & a breakdown.  The man at work who acts like my boss makes me miserable there.  I’ve had team members say to me ” You’re always happy before he starts his shift, then you’re not the same person ” & I say I know. I am more stressed, angry and uneasy around hm.  I don’t want to work with him anymore, I’ve been extremely open about it, however never raised an actual grievance because I believe adults can sort these things out.  He’s actually been much better with me anyway, so I’m not blaming anyone, I just know it’s a reason I am taking longer to get back.

      Please, someone give me some advice.

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        Hi:

        Forum moderators here; we’re sorry you haven’t had many replies yet. Please don’t take this personally or ever think you’re alone. It may just be that forum users are taking a bit of  time to consider how to reply and support you.

        And please remember that you can also contact the OCD Action Helpline to talk to or email someone who understands OCD.

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