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    ronaldison
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      Hi I think i say to everyone around me that they have the right to mess up and I forgive them but don’t do this for myself. Anyone else do this? Can we follow our own advice? Why can’t we be more patient ourselves and learn to make adjustments until we get better. How can we take that first step?

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      ricm
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        Yes, I do that too.

        I think the reason is because, with me, any small “messing up” raises the scary possibility of a large “messing up”. This is presumably a kind of catastrophic thinking.

        I feel this may be because I felt generally unhappy as a child, and assumed I must be messing up – just to find a cause for the unhappiness.

        But also, I actually did mess up as a kid; at school I had bad results, and was often pretty lonely. I now know much of this was due to various mental difficulties. But it all hurts, and leaves the memory of “messing up”. End result: today if I mess up at all, it raises the spectre of this past stuff.

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