Just to add, empathy is good, but ask yourself, “is remorse really such a good thing?” It’s rather like guilt. I used to feel a great deal of guilt and remorse when I was a church goer. But since I packed up with fundamentalist religion I’ve eased up on that kind of thing. I now cut myself far more slack.

    If remorse comes naturally, fair enough, but don’t try to force remorse. Maybe you don’t need to feel so remorseful.