Obsessed about ranking preferences

[trampos123Participant]

Can anyone relate or explain to me whats going on? I have this obsession for ranking many preferences of mine.
For example: “Do I prefer blonde or Brunette woman?” “During my teenage days, im sure i prefer blondes. But now, i like brunettes too. Do i like them less than blondes? Or do I like them in the exact same way nowadays?”
“How much % I like blondes? How much % i like brunettes?”

I get on this loop, i get trapped inside those questions, and never get to any conclusion or answer.
So, i cant enjoy life normally. I can’t just look to a woman and stay relaxed anymore. Now i always get on loops of thoughts. This is not life!!!!

And its not just about hair colors. Its about breast sizes preferences, furniture colors preferences, etc.
Its always: “do I prefer X or Y? Or both equally? How can I know? How can i feel?”

[Choking on flowersParticipant]

I get what you mean 🙁 with ocd its like no matter what you feel like have to know 100% about everything. If you feel uncertain, it makes you feel awful and you go into a never-ending loop in trying to figure it out.

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Hello:

Forum Moderators here: we’re sorry you’re going through a really difficult time now with your OCD related to ranking preferences and haven’t had many replies yet. Please don’t take this personally or ever think you’re alone. It may just be that forum users are taking time to consider how to reply.

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