Contamination OCD

21 September 2020 - 8:17

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Hi all, my boyfriend suffers from contamination OCD. We cannot go into a shop without him having to weigh, touch or examination the food. The issue at the minute is causing me to become anxious as he has to buy specific brands (usually the most expensive). At the minute he doesn’t have an income and so I am having to help out which I don’t mind but it’s causing me anxiety and stress as I have to ensure I have enough money. He also has to see that I sanitise my hands even if I have just sanitised my hands, which causes my hands to become really dry. Sometimes I am not even sure what his rituals are and so I am anticipating that he will get angry with me if I don’t do the right thing. This has caused a massive argument and we have gone on a break which may potentially end things. I really don’t want them to end but I find myself becoming stressed, anxious and angry which isn’t good for both of us. He also doesn’t want to seek help and I understand you cannot force someone to seek help but it’s impacting both our lives. Does anyone have any tips that I could use so that I can either be more accepting or help him cope with his OCD. 

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24 September 2020 - 2:29

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You need to look after yourself first and foremost. I have no patience for people that have an issue that is affecting loved ones and wont seek help. Even a small step to show willingness.
I also have contamination themes and covid is a bit of a dick for us. And for many makes it harder. Mine is slightly different in that I am petrified of making someone else sick.
Maybe break be a good idea and take a step back, I would suggest you emphasise the importance of seeking help. Things wont magically get better even with help but it is a good first step.
Do you think if he joined this site he would find it beneficial?

29 September 2020 - 17:01

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Hi - I’ll write back properly later. I have the same issue, my partner has quite extreme contamination and ordering issues. I say I’ll write later as I am stood in our living room, my partner stormed out earlier over the issue and I’m now stood wearing latex gloves (that have been disinfected) and disinfecting our shopping twice before putting away. I don’t have OCD at all and I do this all the time, with anything we bring in to the home, because I thought it would help her. It doesn’t.

7 October 2020 - 15:41

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Hey, just reading these posts and I'm experiencing the same. Find myself washing my hands when I have no need to because I want to take their distress away. But it doesn't help. Everything I've read suggests we're actually feeding the ocd by doing these things. That if we don't do them, it gives our partners the ability to learn that they don't need to be so scared or anxious. My husband can get very angry with me when I don't comply so stopping doing these things are easier said than done, I know

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