Ruminating about things that might not happen.

26 October 2020 - 20:15

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Hi again. Obviously you can tell i am a worrier seeking reassurance but i can tell all my life i just have to deal with it. But this one is basically after tips on how to approach situations i fear will happen. This particular concern is always at work if i did something wrong at work and then say certain person takes the mick, and i get this anxiety that obviously shows i,m bothered and i get angry. Then i ruminate over and over of the what ifs this happens. It’s the uncertainty i don’t like if it’s like in 4 days time for example were i presume something is going to happen. Up until then i will obsessing getting prepared of the outcome of confrontation. This could be banter but it’s how i react that bothers me. Like when i get the anxiety from it i hate it. I just want feel like i don’t care and stop being paranoid, thanks again. 

27 October 2020 - 17:10

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I would like to know how too, mine is that at some point my husband is going to leave me in the future for a work colleague xx

27 October 2020 - 18:22

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Hi what makes you think he will. 

27 October 2020 - 18:37

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He changed jobs and works with the stunning woman who everyone in the office loves she is positive and funny and obviously doesn't suffer with mental health like me. Doesn't help I used to flirt with a guy in work and like the attention to which has caused me so much anxiety and guilt it kills me everyday. So my head says look how you behaved you deserve to be punished. I just don't feel like a deserve him and he has aged so well with age where I have just gone the other way. I love him so much I'm so scared too lose him and ruin our family xx

27 October 2020 - 20:12

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To both of you, these are fears and understandable.  I feel guilty for the times I have acted like an ass (not saying you to have), have upset my wife or done things that I don’t feel she would approve of. But again they are just thoughts.  Yes they could happen but so too could the exact opposite happen.  These are just thoughts, nothing more.  No matter how much they seem to hold power over you.  Look at ERP or CBT and it is hard work but you can learn to handle these thoughts.  

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