Questions for Homosexual People

15 June 2019 - 12:20

Profile Image
Forum User
Join date: May 2019
Thanks: 18

Hi,

I have some questions primarily for homosexual people, however, people suffering from HOCD are also welcome in this thread.

I am totally confused whether I am a lesbian in denial or suffering from HOCD. The problem is that some of the things I am feeling fit someone in denial category, while some others perfectly fit HOCD category.

It would be great if you could answer these questions:

1. If you are homosexual, did you start questioning your sexuality in teenage years or at least when you were at university? I didn't question at that time, I assumed I was straight. I didn't date at that time though because no one was interested in me.
2. Do you know anyone who turned homosexual over the years, although initially was sure he/she was straight and didn't have any attraction to the same sex?
3. Was it easy for you to accept that you were homosexual? I tried to do this but it felt somehow fake, like 'am I really lesbian? I am not sure...'.
4. As a homosexual, do you constantly notice people of the same sex and feel attracted to so many of them? I feel like I am attracted to kind of every second woman and it is so exhausting.
5. Have you ever wanted to have a life with an opposite sex person and have kids? I initially wanted it but now sadly it feels like I couldn't have this anymore, like I lost it.

Your replies would be very welcome.

This post has been thanked 1 time. 15 June 2019 - 16:38

Profile
Forum User
Join date: Mar 2019
Thanks: 15

Hello, I'm a gay 20 year old man

1. I found out around 11-12 when I had a dream about this guy my age. The difference with dreaming is that when I woke up I felt so amazing and really happy. People with hocd dreams feel numb, upset and anxious because they're scared this means something but if you developed a crush you wouldn't be worrying. I didn't date yet either no but I just knew I would rather date guys rather than women tbh as it makes me happy.

2. My mate came out as gay last year when he was 19. He always knew though. He dated 3 girls at school but he told me he never felt any feelings towards them. I think he tried to force his feelings but it never worked. He found out during puberty he was gay.

3. Lol instantly. I enjoyed my fantasies that's the difference between me and people with hocd. The scary thing was coming out to my parents but I never was scared about my sexuality.

4. I think the difference is if you enjoy the attraction. Attraction brings happiness and makes you giddy inside not terrified. Right now I'm currently going through pocd and I keep noticing young ones and their aesthetics and it's so upsetting. So I think this is you but with hocd.

5. No. Just my own sex as again it brings me happiness. I tried to imagine with a women but I just know it doesn't feel right. I know what you mean with this as with pocd my wish with guys suddenly vanished because of all this fear. I think you're libido and happiness is so poor right now that's the reason it doesn't feel right.

P.s I understand how annoying it is seeing people saying they came out in mid 20s-30s. I worry this is me with being a p and it's horrifying. I honestly believe they knew all along. All my gay mates have knew since puberty just like straight people

15 June 2019 - 20:41

Profile
Forum User
Join date: May 2019
Thanks: 18

Hi,

Thank you so much for your answers and thoughts! I much appreciate your time that you spent to help me.
Your answers gave me hope that I am just suffering from HOCD. I really felt different in the past compared to how I feel now so it might be indeed OCD.

This post has been thanked 1 time. 16 June 2019 - 11:01

Profile
Forum User
Join date: May 2019
Thanks: 4

Please Help,

You have made me see sense. After reading your answers I cried to myself in happiness. I can see now I am not gay and never was. This OCD totally blinds my vision and makes me constantly doubt myself. Thank you so much man 

16 June 2019 - 14:28

Profile
Forum User
Join date: Feb 2019
Thanks: 9

Hi good post but please1998 help I have had great couple of days and know that I don’t want to have relationship with a man and have been enjoying regular sex with my girlfriend at the moment and really enjoying I do get the intrusive thought-of a guy when kissing her to try and get an answer . One of the things I am really hooked on at the moment is watching men receive anal and feel like there is some really enjoyment when I look at. Obviously go on the gay porn I am sat there waiting for an answer and I am at a point where I think I am actually getting confirmation I like the idea of receiving anal. The problem is I have tried anal with my ex which she used her dildo on me but didn’t really like it but then 10 mins later I wasn’t like we must of done it wrong so would try and do it again at a later date

17 June 2019 - 15:15

Profile
Forum User
Join date: Feb 2019
Thanks: 9

anyone?

Reply to this topic