Question about POCD - false attraction

4 August 2019 - 11:14

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Is it possible to have false attraction before having POCD? Like, experiencing false attraction before you have a history of ruminating? For example, experiencing "attraction" to kids at 13-14, before knowing what OCD is and that it can trick you into feeling attracted, but still thinking that it is weird, wrong, makes you feel uneasy and you want it to go away.

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Yes absolutely. I had this also while experience POCD and it makes it feel so real. Please take this as reassurance that this is normal for suffering from POCD, but do not seek reassurance again. Sit with the feelings, even if they are so unbearable, you are stronger and they will eventually dissipate.

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how old are you? if you are over age 18 and these thought just now started then its most likely not real, its just ocd. Every sexuality is often known by the person itself in early/mid puberty. Ocd is playing a game with you, but according to dr phillipson u should expose urself to your fears. [link removed by Moderator] try and sit with the thoughts for a while even if groinal response happens(know its the ocd anxiety), [link removed by Moderator] but the anxiety and intrusive thoughts should lessen,  the more u accept the intrusive thoughts, groinal response(if u get it). The less u care, ocd will move to another theme or just leave u alone.

the difference between ppl with real sexuality pedophilia and pocd, is that pocd has anxiety and isent sure if they are or not pedophiles, but real ones know they are.

look at this : (knew since puberty)

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I am almost 19, these thoughts started when I was 17, never thought about kids like that before (at least not after I myself stopped being a kid at like 12-13). Anxiety sometimes wears off and it feels like I like the thoughts, which freaks me out but as I understand losing anxiety is progress, so I'll have to bear with it for a while. Also, false memories are the worst.

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have you tried telling your brain " so what if I am a pedophile?" "it doesnt matter anyways, its nothing one has decided themselves", it usually helps to see its nothing to fear and anxiety usually lessens somewhat, to just sit with it like that, sit with the anxiety after you keep telling this in your head. Did you watch this video----> [link removed by Moderator] maybe u can see if there is difference between you and him.

what do you mean by you "like" the thoughts? are you attracted to childen sexually? Do you want to masturbate to images? sometimes people with ocd have false arousal, the ocd makes them believe things. since it all started so late at 17, I doubt you are one. Its not something you can just become overnight. the man in the video above knew in his early teens and tried to pray to god to take it away. the ppl who have it on his site know they are and might have shame over it but I dont think they are confused as to who they are like ppl with pocd.

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By "liking" I mean that when I first started getting these thoughts I was just horrified and terrorized by them, but OCD after a while decided that is not enough and started playing with feelings and arousal, which are all over the place now for me and it can feel like I like the thoughts, but when it happens it makes me want to cry and shudder. I doubt that is a reaction you get from actually liking something, it just gets to me because sometimes it feels so real because my brain is just too tired to feel anxiety and fight the thoughts so it seems like I start to accept them.
I am lucky to have a family, especially my dad who I can talk to about these thoughts.

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I know what you mean you are not alone, I had the same with different ocd themes, they just keep moving on to the next, im currently on one right now, its really hard, having been free of ocd themes from 2010 and now it all started is hard to deal with but know its not really you, its just ocd being a bully, I know how its like, its like its bullying ourself and we miss who we used to be carefree

I listened to this last night about it, its a good doctor who knows alot about ocd.[link removed by Moderator]

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