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1 August 2014 - 13:22

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Hi me again. Staring. Think im looking at a blank wall but staring at some street urchin who I am old enough to be their mum. My chest is up and mouth hanging open until they come forward. Then I stop. I've done this in front of my partner. That's how I know. I have no memory or recollection of it at all. Why is this happening? Am I in denial?

6 August 2014 - 10:11

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Hi ocdpatient

Good hearing back from yourself

Sorry we took a bit of time getting back hoping you are okay.

Do you tend to remember that moment lets say a couple of minutes or hours since it happened? I know this might sound strange but if you have some type of plan to how you are going to approch this that's a positive.

I think when we are more aware when we are doing the habit that's got to be a positive I feel, but putting that aside I wonder if the habit has been broken slightly do you feel like this is happening less and less often. It does sound a lot like If we can break the habit a tiny bit sort of meaning if we can break that urge that makes us want to stare, now sometimes saying it like this sounds difficult but try not to think of it in this light. One of the things that tends to get mentioned when trying to break a habit is avoiding the places that make you want to do the habit and I feel this is so true.

Check these links out, you might of read this one before but there are some good points in the wiki how one.

Wikihow (Breaking bad habits)

The Dr phil website has interesting information on it, hoping this can be of help.

(Dr Phil Habits)

An interesting read as I read this one my myself, One of my favorite points and I must recommend is to (Create Habit Diary) like what it was mentioning on step 3 on the Dr Phil link.

8 August 2014 - 22:42

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thanks grams. i can't avoid places as its staring at people which can be everywhere. i will have a look at the links and get back to you. 

thanks. hope all is well with you

8 August 2014 - 22:50

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another thing is i am so stressed that my colleagues have even noticed it. i still have this problem, it upsets my partner, he becomes aggressive, upset and violent due to the frustration.

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