How to stop POCD false feelings

10 May 2019 - 19:53

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So my anxiety has gone and now when I see kids with certain characteristics I get a realistic enjoyable fluttery arousal/attraction feeling which is very hard to distinguish from the same feeling for adults. This lasts for a few seconds and feels normal, like an urge, but then I realise what I am thinking about, start strongly fighting that feeling while my body is still like forcing me to feel it. Like, I need to think about it longer to make it stop. I successfully fight the urge to ruminate and keep telling myself it is not real but sometimes it is easier said than done. Seems like I have wired the wrong parts of my brain together and now it fires when it shouldn't. Also, I never felt this way before POCD. Any advice?

20 May 2019 - 14:47

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For me my false attractions would be an immediate anxious response from my chest and that would make me question things like "why did i just feel that after looking at that kid??? that must mean that i'm attracted to them oh my god oh my god" but then i started practicing something someone with OCD told me about which was to just let the anxiety happen and acknowledge it, but think nothing of it. "Maybe I am attracted, maybe I'm not, who knows - I don't care to find out." is what she told me and she basically said acknowledge it and move on with your day. This started working for me and after the anxiety started lessening I noticed that false attractions happen when you ACKNOWLEDGE that a person has features that you generally find attractive and with OCD you mistake that for an actual attraction. Take this as general advice and with a grain of salt because I'm self-diagnosed but so far it has helped me. Admiring features on a child that you generally find attractive in adults (for example a specific haircut or eye color or hell even a specific pair of SHOES) doesn't mean you're attracted to the child. Your body's response is just confusing you because when a person has OCD they tend to get hyper-body awareness and just over-analyze every single sensation the body has. Again, no reassurance - you need to learn to accept uncertainty and not assume the worst - then you will get to a point where you can think more clearly and without the 50 different panic reactions in your body.

20 May 2019 - 22:48

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OCD muddles your brain up for a little while. The more you refuse to ruminate and analyse, the more your brain will start to catch up with reality. It's perfectly normal to have an onset of different OCD-like symptoms when you start refusing the OCD thoughts. It's just another OCD symptom you have to push through. 

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