HOW TO BEAT HOCD

27 January 2020 - 1:54

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These are the steps and advice I would give anyone looking to overcome these fears of becoming/turning gay. Here you go are you ready...

- STOP ALL INTERNET RESEARCHING, this includes forums,empty closets,Reddit, researching finger lengths ect. Stay away from the internet and stop comparing your story to a another person's story.

-Dont ask another person if they think your gay. I got caught in this trap many times and only made myself look more *suspect than others. It's a question that no one can answer for you. It solves nothing and it's never going to satisfy you. Plus no one cares what you decide to do with your life. It's your LIFE.

-Looking for evidence in your past to PROVE your not gay. This is a complusion and your basically trying to reinforce your thoughts by proving to yourself that your not gay. Stop replaying senerios with the same sex thoughts in your head to see if you enjoy the thoughts.

-Checking or imgaining yourself with the same sex 20+ times a day, this is destroying your mind because your constantly reasurraning to yourself that you may or may not be a certain sexual orientation.

-Find out why your scared or nervous about becoming gay. Is it social anxiety, do you care what people think of you?

-Treat this fear or thoughts the same as any other OCD. Homosexual, Harm, Cancer, Aids whatever it may be.

- Stop picking apart or compare your FEELINGS to those of the opposite sex.

-Don't avoid the same sex, get out and be involved in something (hobbies,sports,gym) go to the locker room around naked men and sit there without doing any mental complusions. Whatever feelings you get, sit through then untill the anxiety comes down.

- There is no such thing as looking or talking gay, this is stereotypes that have nothing to do with actually being gay. It's false and made up by society, their are many men who don't fit these stereotypes. Also it doesn't matter what your job, hobbies, skills are. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with any other avenues in your life. It may to some extent... Really flamboyant men do enjoy femaine things but that's there choose.

A quick tip, many people feel they are in denial or repressed because they sit in isolation and are bombarded with homosexual thoughts. The reason why I believe you feel this way is because your suffering in silence, these thoughts are not physical and no one knows what exactly now going on or what your thinking.

Last but not least, this is important.

The more you TRY and figure out if your gay is only reinforcing the cycle to continue. Once you stop and accept the thoughts and feelings toward the same sex then you will come out the other end. Second, no one is stoping you from going through with your thoughts. If you decide to become gay or not that's up to you. But keep this is mind, you can't FEAR something and enjoy it at the same time. Lower your anxiety and panic then go from there.

27 January 2020 - 9:25

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Yes, this fits me exactly. I know I am attracted to men and I'm just weak and can't handle it. I'm checking out of this miserable existence.

27 January 2020 - 11:06

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I have started to notice that male faces are attractive it never was like that before hocd. I don’t get turned on by men, but cuz of these facial attractions I think that I’m bi.

27 January 2020 - 11:12

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Is it possible to become bisexual after a certain age?

27 January 2020 - 11:30

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Yes, I feel you. Today I have pictured myself getting penetrated without any disgust or anxiety, so u are not alone.

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You keep pressing the same accelaration as before, even though purewarrior explained you that acceptance is the way to go, you have to accept the uncertainty, the possibility, not accept full blown gay. Imagine someone that fears that they will kill their family (and in their mind they can do it without any remorse) it doesnt mean they would do it or will do it. Its a tricky disorder and it can make you think you actually enjoy what you fear.

I will give you again an example: a person fears they will get sick if they touch the trash can, they fear it so much that they cant do it in real life, for them the fear if real, they do ERP and touch the trash can in their mind and realise that there is nothing to fear, this doesnt mean that they actually like touching the trash can, it means they dont fear it, they dont feel disgust or repulsion anymore, because they did it so many times, that their mind got used to it.

Its the same with what you are testing, none of you actually say you like it, you just say you dont feel disgust and repulsion, THIS DOESNT MEAN YOU LIKE IT. It means you got desensitized. Liking something makes you happy (a moment of relief after anxiety doesnt mean you are happy, it just means you got rid of the anxiety).

27 January 2020 - 14:05

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Attraction to the same sex is normal, however it doesnt mean its sexual. For example if you dont fear observing another dude's abs you will see you observed the abs because you like the abs, but you like the abs because you would like to have that good looking abs and be fit, not because you are gay. If you observe another dude because he looks good and has confidence, this doesnt mean you would fuck him, it means you would like to look good and have self esteem and confidence...but because we are in a state of anxiety we confuse things very very easily...but you can only realise the truth once you stop fearing and confront your fears...

27 January 2020 - 15:23

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Hey blade no one is stoping you from going through with anything you decide. As for homosexual OCD it's legal unlike commiting a harm crime or any other illegal thoughts. That is completely up to you, I believe you fear what society fears or your family. If you say your having desires than what's stoping you? Go on the street and meet a man

3 February 2020 - 18:57

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No one chooses to be gay or bi it just happens , some times later in life. The reason I was obessing and denial is because I didn't want to accept it? People just choose what they like and go with it.

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