27 January 2020 - 1:54
These are the steps and advice I would give anyone looking to overcome these fears of becoming/turning gay. Here you go are you ready...
- STOP ALL INTERNET RESEARCHING, this includes forums,empty closets,Reddit, researching finger lengths ect. Stay away from the internet and stop comparing your story to a another person's story.
-Dont ask another person if they think your gay. I got caught in this trap many times and only made myself look more *suspect than others. It's a question that no one can answer for you. It solves nothing and it's never going to satisfy you. Plus no one cares what you decide to do with your life. It's your LIFE.
-Looking for evidence in your past to PROVE your not gay. This is a complusion and your basically trying to reinforce your thoughts by proving to yourself that your not gay. Stop replaying senerios with the same sex thoughts in your head to see if you enjoy the thoughts.
-Checking or imgaining yourself with the same sex 20+ times a day, this is destroying your mind because your constantly reasurraning to yourself that you may or may not be a certain sexual orientation.
-Find out why your scared or nervous about becoming gay. Is it social anxiety, do you care what people think of you?
-Treat this fear or thoughts the same as any other OCD. Homosexual, Harm, Cancer, Aids whatever it may be.
- Stop picking apart or compare your FEELINGS to those of the opposite sex.
-Don't avoid the same sex, get out and be involved in something (hobbies,sports,gym) go to the locker room around naked men and sit there without doing any mental complusions. Whatever feelings you get, sit through then untill the anxiety comes down.
- There is no such thing as looking or talking gay, this is stereotypes that have nothing to do with actually being gay. It's false and made up by society, their are many men who don't fit these stereotypes. Also it doesn't matter what your job, hobbies, skills are. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with any other avenues in your life. It may to some extent... Really flamboyant men do enjoy femaine things but that's there choose.
A quick tip, many people feel they are in denial or repressed because they sit in isolation and are bombarded with homosexual thoughts. The reason why I believe you feel this way is because your suffering in silence, these thoughts are not physical and no one knows what exactly now going on or what your thinking.
Last but not least, this is important.
The more you TRY and figure out if your gay is only reinforcing the cycle to continue. Once you stop and accept the thoughts and feelings toward the same sex then you will come out the other end. Second, no one is stoping you from going through with your thoughts. If you decide to become gay or not that's up to you. But keep this is mind, you can't FEAR something and enjoy it at the same time. Lower your anxiety and panic then go from there.