groinal responses & intrusive wishes, obsessions mixed

2 July 2019 - 12:05

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I was obsessing about groinal responses. One day when my main obsession was about having groial responses I had an intrusive thought about wishing bad to my loved one and I clearly remember I was thinking  “oh, no I am going to worry about groinal responses while having these intrusive wishes” Guess what I was in full blown anxiety and checked groinal repsonses even if my new obsession was not sexual. I feel like a monster for checking groinal responses because this obsession is not even sexual. 

My main problem now is that I have terribble “wishes” like “I wish” or “I hope” or they start even worse. They are about my loved ones. 

I really really do not want these thoughts and I am terrified that they will come true.

I get terrible pop up thoughts while walking somewhere like I get a terribble pop up wish, like I wish something terribble would happen there where I am walking or travelling. 

I asked for help from my partner. He just wanted to help me when he said “you haven’t rubbed Aladdin’s lamp” and now I am terrified that I will have a terribble intrusive wish after the thought of rubbing Aladdin’s lamp. 

So thinking about Aladdin’s lamp before a terrible “wish” won’t come true, right? I can not calm myself down, I am so worried that my loved ones could die because of my thoughts. I heard about thought action fusion but these are “wishes” and I can barely find anything about intrusive wishes. I can not think about them as simply thoughts, I am too scared. I can not cause accidents at certain places right? Am I right about the groinal response thing? Like I was thinking “oh no i am going to have them, great” and checked if I had them so I made myself have them? The more you check the more you feel. Why did I have it in the first place?!  I can’t clearly remember if I had it maybe I just mixed the two obsessions together? Or what if I had a groinal response, otherwise I wouldn’t be here obsessing about it. Is it normal to feel like having a groinal response after a non-sexual obsession?

I am scared I am going crazy and this is too much to say “it’s just OCD” 

3 July 2019 - 10:52

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anyone?

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You can have a groinal response in any situation, it doesnt need to be sexual...if you check for a groinal...you will sometimes feel like something is moving down there...even though you weren't doing or thinking anything sexual. If you want to get rid of the groinal responses, you have to stop fearing these sensations. You have to stop checking, mentally and psysically...the more you check the more the groinals will come. You should read a few articles about groinals and discuss them with your therapist. Next time you think you will have a groinal, or you have a groinal or you want to check if you have a groinal, just aknowledge that we all have all kind of sensations down there (but we dont notice them, because most people dont check/focus on their groin) and dont do anything about it. Dont check, dont test, dont focus on the sensation. Dont be afraid of this sensation. Just sit there and dont do anything. Also dont start discussing this with yourself, like dont ask yourself, what does this mean, is this arousal? is this normal? do nothing, accept this sensation and thats it, continue doing something else. If you want you can also challenge yourself, like ok lets see what happens, will i get aroused, will i get wet...what happens...but its important that you dont check, dont do anything..

I recommend you find a good OCD therapist and discuss groinals and ERP with him/her first!

Hope this helps!

3 July 2019 - 16:01

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This is not the first time you helped me OCD80. Thank you so much! This helped me a looot! 

3 July 2019 - 18:20

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I agree.  Also, I've never heard of an intrusive "wish".  I think that would be a contradiction in terms.  It can't be intrusive if it's a wish which you've pointed out very clearly, is not the case.  Have you ever heard of a truely bad person (a criminal, psychopath, etc.) feel anxious/panic about being a bad person.  No.  So the anxiety/panic is, in and of itself, proof that you're not a bad person!

God bless and take care.

James

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