Females with hocd. Panicking *TW!!!!*

22 February 2020 - 0:54

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This might trigger other girls with HOCD and I'm so sorry if it does but I'm freaking out.

just heard about a thing called comphet and it has got me REALLY panicking. I definitely related to a lot of things with it but I feel like my case HAS to be circumstantial because of my social anxiety disorder. But I'm so paranoid now.

Anyone got advice on this please???

22 February 2020 - 2:51

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Someone please give me some insight on this. I feel sick. 

22 February 2020 - 13:28

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Hello Hailey, what advice are you looking for ? Compulsory heterosexuality can have very different meanings. It's definition reaches from homosexual people who are having heterosexual intercourse to criminally forced sexual behavior (f.e. rape). Whatever these definitions are you shouldn't apply them onto you. It's does not make your situation better, it's more like going into a rabbit hole.

Social anxiety disorder.. being paranoid.. you're putting a lot of weight on your shoulders by saying that. I guess you're looking for answers and certainty but naming your symptoms can make it more difficult because it lets your problems sound even more scary. Are you in therapy ? If not you should know that CBT is known to be the best cure for anxious minds like us. I can tell you from my experience that looking up symptoms on google is nearly always going to backfire. On the other hand posting in mental health forums is known to be very beneficial. So please, next time you're thinking about looking up symptoms on google just make a post on here. 

Don't be so hard on yourself 

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22 February 2020 - 16:12

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Sounds like you triggered. Use your technique for triggers on this too.

22 February 2020 - 16:30

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Hullo Hailey Ann,
From a quick Google, it's immediately clear that comphet is a highly-charged political term with an agenda behind it. These are not the kind of words that anxiety sufferers should take to heart or apply to themselves.
Sometimes things exist, so people create a word for them. Other times, people want things to exist, and their best chance of achieving this is to sneak new words into the language. I think that's what's happened here.

22 February 2020 - 18:59

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I was scrolling through another HOCD forum and was looking to hear other people's stories and admittedly (and shamefully) looking for reassurance. One girl seemed to be going through something similar to mine and she mentioned being freaked out by the concept of this thing called comphet. I had never heard of it and so naturally I fucking googled it and my world came crashing down. I was so horrifically triggered and wanted to cry immediately and I've been obsessively researching it ever sense and my anxiety sky rocketed. There are full on lists of signs of compulsory heterosexuality and I related to a lot of them. I grew up with crippling social anxiety and was petrified of making friends or dating. And a lot of things on those lists are things that I felt until I met my boyfriend and my current group of friends but after endless research on this topic and reading the experiences of multiple lesbians who went through these things it feels so defeating. The only difference between them and me is they knew they were attracted to girls and still did those things and induced those feelings on themselves to be normal. I never felt that way about girls. And I didn't feel anxious around just guys I felt anxious around EVERYONE. I dont know what to think now.

22 February 2020 - 22:20

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Hocd is not about sexual orientation it’s about intrusive thoughts.

22 February 2020 - 22:48

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I know. But reading about the comphet stuff made the intrusive thoughts a million times worse and made me doubt everything even more.

24 February 2020 - 5:04

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This really is freaking me out. I've barely been able to think straight (no pun intended)

24 February 2020 - 16:13

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How about some exercise? It makes serotonin & you’ll feel better & won’t obsess as much.

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