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20 July 2014 - 4:26

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Do you find it takes more strength to suppress a thought than it does to "sit with it?"  My doctor asked me this just the other day. I have found that it's a double edged sword. Fighting to suppress it almost feels as though I have to physically push it down or out of my mind, and when I am in a state of high anxiety and the thoughts overcome my mind, it's almost unbearable! Just sitting with it causes me great anxiety, I can hardly manage to do it. The anxiety it causes is almost as exhausting as suppressing it, but I feel like it's somehow easier to suppress it than to sit with it. What do you all think?

Also, when suppressing a thought, do you find yourself physically reacting to suppress the thought? I have found that I roll my eyes or count my fingers, stretch my fingers or toes, all kinds of weird stuff! Why do we feel this is all necessary to fight these thoughts off? What good will it do? My doctor asks me of I think that these little "tricks" are the only thing keeping me from being this horrible person my ocd makes me out to be! I know he's right, and I am doing much better, but I've a long road ahead. OCD SUCKS. (Please Excuse my poor choice of words, although I'm sure I could think of worse).

20 July 2014 - 12:08

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Whilst both are difficult to do there is a significant difference.

Suppressing or trying to suppress the thoughts only makes the OCD worse. You’re not dealing with the thoughts instead by trying to suppress them you are simply giving them importance and continually reminding yourself of the OCD. And the many methods employed in an attempt to suppress them can in themselves become part of the OCD in the form of compulsions etc.

Staying with the anxiety and allowing it to slowly reduce is a far better way to deal with the OCD. The thoughts aren’t the problem; it’s the way that we react to them that creates the problem. By continually reacting to these thoughts we are giving them importance, so making them far more likely to return to plague us.

For staying with the anxiety to be effective we need to try to just let the thoughts be there and not react to them or be judgmental, just let them drift through your mind. Consider them to be thoughts, not OCD or even a bad thoughts, just simply thoughts.

Yes, in the short term suppressing or ignoring the thoughts can for some be easier, but only in the short term. In the long term it exacerbates the OCD making it far more difficult to deal with.

In order to deal effectively with our OCD we need to learn how to change the way that we react to our thoughts, this is partly why many can’t get on with Brain Lock as it doesn’t actually help us to change the way that we react to our thoughts in a general way.

20 July 2014 - 16:10

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Hi Truddles!

i completely agree with you on all levels. I know that suppressing a thought causes us to get 10x back, it's just so difficult at times. I've been able to sit with most of them, the further I get along in my therapy. Of course there are still moments when I struggle, as I'm sure we all do. It's definitely easier in the short term, but I know after so many years of struggling with this that it's not the answer. I was just curious to see what others think. Thanks for everything!

20 July 2014 - 18:16

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Hi there,you dont suppress thoughts wen u have ocd u either ride them out or 'let them be there'and learn to live with them.
Dave

20 July 2014 - 20:12

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Hi Dave, I know. I have learned all is this in therapy. However, in living with this disorder, suppression of the thoughts has been much easier than just dealing with them. As I said, I am learning how to sit with the thought and to let them pass, I was just curious how others feel.

5 June 2017 - 23:25

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Hi ,its a case of doing what gives u a better quality of life and wat works best for YOU!
Later Dav

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