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16 July 2014 - 16:41

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Hi guys hope everyone is ok! ,how does everyone look at life living with this condition i mean regards too wat gives u motivation from day to day?wat keeps u going wen your ocd is tormenting u?thanks Dave(u can pm if u like )

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Hi Dav, I wonder sometimes what keeps me going. I do have a faith of sorts, but I think I just have a developing recklessness with everything. I try to believe that there is some point to life, that we're on a journey somewhere, and that we go to a better place, and someone up there is looking after us, be it God for me. It is, I refer to him as the Father Spirit, and I get some comfort from that. I try to respect all faiths, taking the best from each, I can't handle the rest of it, the stuff people fight to the death over... Life is very stressful these days, and it doesn't help if you care a bit, whereas the fear of contamination of the world around me worries me a lot. I feel so responsible for everything sometimes... But that is just me... There are lots of different faiths in the world. Sometimes it is just a case of hope for the best I think!  Also, I rely a lot on what my CBT therapists taught me. How to develop evidence of things being okay, by being a little bit reckless now and then. Not washing my hands all the time, in total defiance of the germs. I wash them when I need to, like after using the loo, but not in between sessions on the computer, or touching a door handle... I still struggle, but CBT has been a tremendous help. Reading and writing is good too. There are some great books about, and I try to write too, I have some stuff I'm working on , it is very therapeutic, writing... It gets your thoughts out in words where you can see them instead of them swimming around in your head, causing panic attacks and stuff like that. Hope this helps a bit...

16 July 2014 - 21:38

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Hi mate,thats interesting about faith/religion i wish i could beleive in something like that ,i beleive we r on a journey of some kind and there is something else other than this(or maybe its human nature to beleive that theres something else....)in wat way has your cbt helped ?i had it years ago but i cant remeber much ov it .later Dave

16 July 2014 - 22:13

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Hi Dav,

For me I'd say always having something to look forward to and staying busy as much as I can. Such as having a hobby..but hobbies where you get a sense of achievement from it, so for me it may be painting, cycling, learning a language and taking learning courses. My friend has a lot of worries, but now he has started filling his time with cycling and baking, it helps him out a lot. Or maybe writing like Wannabe said. So yeh...working towards something to better yourself. Not the total solution but it certainly helps a lot for me.

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16 July 2014 - 22:23

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Hi joe,yea that sounds cool and its giving u something to look forward to and a sense ov achievment Dave

17 July 2014 - 12:16

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Hi Dave, Hi everyone

I would second what Joe was saying in relation to hobbies that give you a sense of achievement, I have an unusal hobby I tend to practice most days learning different facts or knowledge so it sticks in my mind. At the time being I'm focusing on the order of the commonwealth games by remembering what year and what city each of the games were hosted. (I find this hobby enjoyable as it gives you that sense of achievement when you can actually recall the facts or knowledge)

A lot of time I will admit I spend ruminating or doing something ocd wants me to do but if we can keep busy that's great.

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Hi everyone,

Good question! Sometimes I struggle with motivation and ask myself why I should bother going on. What helps me is believing I have a purpose for living that is bigger than just being happy and enjoying a pleasant life. If my ultimate goal in life were my own enjoyment, I don't think I would still be here now. But I am persuaded by the evidence that there is a God behind the universe who has a purpose for our lives and wants a loving relationship with us, and it is now my privilege to live for Him instead of for myself, and therefore all my attitudes, thoughts, decisions, and actions matter, even in the tiny humdrum business of daily life. I am alive primarily to glorify Him rather than for my own private happiness.

I heard the story of a new cathedral that was being built in Spain and one day a tourist wandered round the building site talking to the workers. He went up to one of them and asked him what job he was doing, and he replied wearily that he was laying one brick on another and 'glueing' them together with mortar. He then went up to another worker and asked the same question. This worker straightened up and spread out his hands towards the sky and said with beaming eyes and a proud smile on his face, "I am building the most beautiful cathedral the world has ever seen." Both workers had only been laying bricks but their different perspective on what they were doing obviously made a difference to their motivation.

17 July 2014 - 14:39

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Hi guys ,my motivation seems to 'focus'on improving my ocd and getting more ov my life back to enjoy other things ,and i dont eat sometimes wich doesnt help.
Dave

17 July 2014 - 15:35

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Hi Dave

Interesting what Goofy was saying, If we can keep ourselves motivated maybe it might be a long term goal or something short term that makes us feel happy and motivated by all means go for gold.

I'm sort of feeling a bit absent mindlessness today if that's the right term to use, as if I'm looking for something to worry about. (I'm a bit mixed up today)

17 July 2014 - 18:02

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Hi grams, mite be the wether mate i feel like that sometimes ,ocd does make u feel like 'ur looking for worry 'i put it down to how im feeling and it passes in a day or 2,
Dave

17 July 2014 - 18:17

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Thanks Dave

Too warm at the moment I feel and the heat can't be good for any of us. 

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