6 July 2020 - 8:56
Hi, I don't know who to turn to so thank you for listening.
Me and my partner have been together for nearly 2 years and moved in together just before lockdown. We live together with my 10 yr old autistic son.
He made me aware from the start of the relationship that he had OCD but he managed it well and it wasn't a problem to him.
However the covid-19 pandemic has changed everything for him and us. When the crisis first happened and lockdown was put in place we all self isolated and I went out once a week to do the shopping. He insisted that I went at 8an when the shops opened so it wasn't so busy. We were then not allowed to go out (even into our garden for about 3 weeks) . Even to take my son out for some exercise was too much for him to deal with so he didn't go out for about 8 weeks. When I did actually pluck up the courage to take him out, my partner's reaction was extreme and he had a meltdown.
During the lockdown I luckily have been working from home which has been a great distraction. My partner however is self employed and isn't yet able to start work.
His temper and moods have been terrible towards me, my son and even the dog. His mood swings are unpredictable and sometimes quite volatile. He always apologies after an outburst or an argument.
So my problem is that as restrictions are easing and people are starting to live a new kind of normal, I don't feel like I am able to do that. He still wants us to isolate and to continue to do so until he feels it's safe to do so. I however am ready to start taking things slowly and sensibly.
I have a 22 yr old daughter who has her own house and we are extremely close. I took my son to visit her yesterday and we went into her house (as we're now allowed to). We social distanced and were further away from each other than what people are in a supermarket. My partner has reacted really badly to this and it looks like our relationship is at the end. I was completely honest with him about going into her house but he says I've done wrong and it's unforgivable what I've done. The arguments during the crisis have been terrible and it's clearly affecting my son. I don't know what to do as I truly love my partner but we can't go on like this. He accepts that he has this condition but is too proud/ stubborn to seek help. Thank you for listening