29 June 2020 - 16:38
My husband is 31 and he was diagnosed with intrusive thoughts / OCD 2 years ago. We have been married for almost 5 years and have been together for nearly 10.
He had a break down where he confessed a lot of things that really no wife would want to hear, for example, he said that he masturbated about my friends and sisters, was crying and obsessing about his thoughts and feelings and didn't know what he wanted in our relationship and he was bringing up lots of old memories about things. Groinal responses, overthinking, etc. I knew he was unwell so he went to hospital and ended up getting CBT for 8 weeks At the time he had this breakdown our daughter was 8 months old and I was just about to go back to work from maternity leave. It was a really terrible time and I didn't know how to feel about our relationship. I felt trapped, hurt and I needed to get away from him and vice versa for him.
Fast forward to today after a lot of working through things and myself getting some therapy, we had an argument and then he started saying some things that were not like him at all. Saying that we should have a divorce, he isn't sure if he loves me, that I'm not his type etc etc and he wonders what it would be like to be with someone else. It obviously really upset me and although we all sometimes think about it casually like what if this or that it seems like he takes his thoughts literally and thinks everything is over. The next day he takes it all back and said it was really selfish of him to say these things and he was really apologetic.
We have been working really hard in our relationship but lately we haven't been so close and he doesn't show as much love as he used to. Now I'm beginning to wonder whether this really is the end or whether he needs to see a therapist again?
We normally get on so well, but I also have my own problems with anxiety and depression so our relationship is very complicated sometimes. But I'm starting to wonder whether our relationship is worth saving.