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This post has been thanked 1 time. 25 January 2015 - 15:33

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Hi guys hope evryones ok,ive been putting posts on this forum and either no ones replying or i cant use this forum properly,i was recieving replies before but i think im looking in the wrong place or somthing,soon as some1 helps i can get posting again cheers.
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25 January 2015 - 15:44

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Hey Dav,

Classy name by the way.

There's no email notifications of replies on here so instead you have to check the "new posts" link that appears along the horizontal menu that appears part way down some pages or check each individual forum for responses. But I find it's quickest with the new posts as it shows only things with new responses.

So are you saying, you already know that and have been checking but your posts are missing or something like that? Or were some of your posts not getting replies?

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25 January 2015 - 17:49

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Hi David,il check the new posts mate,i think its been i while since i posted and there that far back!thanks anyways,like the floyd
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25 January 2015 - 18:02

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Love that album/cover

Well in that case maybe you can find those posts by  clicking on your profile then scrolling down to the "history" section on the left. Not sure how many it shows there or what the criteria are though. I think the recent posts on the right are time-limited so if they're old they likely won't be there.

Cheers

David

25 January 2015 - 20:12

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Hi Dav, Hi David.

My brothers called david.

Hope you are able to get that one sorted Dav as David was saying.

25 January 2015 - 21:43

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Hi Dav, Hi David.

My brothers called david. 

Hope you are able to get that one sorted Dav as David was saying.

What a difference a Dave makes

25 January 2015 - 23:43

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Hi Dav,

No posts or topics have been deleted. Like the others said you can find any replies in the New Posts list or go to your profile page scroll down to your posting history and then check the topics you've started to see if anyone has replied to them.

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26 January 2015 - 14:18

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Ok yea think am sorted there ,i dont no about mohammed being the most popular babies name but i think dave must b up there haha!has any ov u guys had cbt am having it hopefully by feb ?
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26 January 2015 - 14:51

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It's got to be hasn't it. You can't throw a stone without hitting a Dave round here.

Yes I'm having CBT at the moment. Any questions, fire away.

28 January 2015 - 14:00

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Hi sisyphus,i shud b starting cbt sometime in feb and im looking forward to it and im not lol!im hoping to make some improvments and im gonna give it my all were i can,what type ov things r u doing and how is is helping?
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Hey Dav,

I think your attitude is probably spot on to be honest. If you understand it correctly then it's right to be a bit apprehensive, not too much obviously - that's just not necessary nor helpful - but a little bit apprehensive, because you're going to be asked to discuss a couple of things you'd probably rather not, to volunteer things you'd rather not, and to do some exercises you'd rather not. And you'll push yourself through those barriers because you know the person sitting in the chair has heard/read it all before and doesn't really care about the details but about the bigger picture and getting you better. And of course you want to get better too.

But you should also look forward to it because it is an opportunity to work on your OCD, see if you can make in-roads and take it's power over your life away at all.

So what have we done in my CBT?

We talked a lot in the beginning about my history and what things have triggered and exacerbated OCD, then about what kind of obsessions and compulsions I get.

I wanted to keep a couple of embarrassing ones to myself as I just didn't feel ready to discuss them with a stranger but the therapist was adamant this was a bad idea. This was round about the time my paranoia that I was a subject for a book started! I'm just kidding, I already asked her about that.

I guess at some point we discussed how CBT/ERP works, though I knew all that already so I think she skipped over it.

Then onto some homework exercises:

- reading the Pur O chapter from the OCD workbook

- keeping a journal of what obsessions I was getting, rating the accompanying anxiety, detailing if/how I responded

- written exposures - writing down certain obsessions to deliberately trigger them and trying not to respond at all, and rating my anxiety, then repeating until the anxiety sufficiently dropped

- same thing but saying the obsessions out loud(we did this as I didnt get on too well with the written exercise)

- trying not to respond to certain triggers at all the whole time

- trying not to respond to all triggers at all for 1/2 an hour a day

- trying not to respond to all triggers at all for 2 hours

I'm gonna be honest - I don't think I've done very well with my CBT. External circumstances have made it difficult to remain positive and calm and I've allowed my eye to come off the ball a few times. So I'm disappointed in myself though some of it is bad luck. That said,it has helped in that it has demonstrated to me that ultimately we are in control of if and how we respond, even though it doesn't feel like it sometimes, and we can change that behaviour. And I know that if I can just apply it more widely and consistently then it will start to pay more dividends by decreasing my anxiety and OCD. Also, I am now always trying to some degree to resist compulsions wherever I can. Often not successful, some days maybe not at all even, but I do have my good days where I manage to not respond to a lot. 

So it's a chaotic messy picture, but overall I can say that it is having a positive impact on my OCD/anxiety. And in the circumstances that's as good as I can hope for I think. Plus, it's teaching me how to better go about tackling it for the future too.

It's worth mentioning that my OCD is vastly mostly intrusive thoughts/Pure O so if you had contamination issues or checking, there would likely be more practical exposures, e.g. touching a thing you normally wouldn't for a short time and trying not to respond, not checking the thing you would normally check after the usual trigger happened. They start you off real gentle with just a small dip into that and build you up at your own pace so don't worry about suddenly being exposed to bad things, that doesn't happen.

There will be challenges, you will need to be brave, but it';s not the nightmare scenario of suddenly being exposed to everything we imagine before CBT!  That wouldn't do anyone any good. No, it's much more a mutual agreement on what you can handle, when. And you can always say no of course if you feel you can't handle it. No-one's got a gun to your head.

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